Your Child the Charity Habit
By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman
Charity and the spirit of giving have been elevated to
a new level following the recent Asian tsunami. After witnessing the
horrific images of pain and suffering streaming steadily across their
TV sets, more people than ever before have dipped deeper into their
own pockets to offer needed relief to the survivors of this unprecedented
Many parents are using the destruction delivered by the
disaster as an opportunity to help children learn about charity and
the importance of reaching out to others in their time of need. They
have made generous family donations, often involving their children
in picking out the charity, writing the check, and preparing and mailing
the envelope. They have allowed their children to witness turning the
pain and grief of unimaginable loss into a time of extending love and
compassion to unknown people half way around the world.
Clearly the recent tsunami provides an opportune time
to teach children about charity. But what if parents want lessons about
charity to be more than a one time occurrence? What if they want the
spirit of giving to be a way of life for their children? What if they
want charity to become a habit?
To help your children acquire the habit of charity, consider
implementing as a family the strategies which follow.
1.) Periodically go through your closets rooting out clothes
you haven’t worn in awhile, clothes to be given to the Salvation
Army or Good Will for distribution to the needy. Encourage your children
to do the same. Allow them to select which clothes or toys they wish
to donate. The value of this activity is diminished greatly if you go
through their closets for them without their presence. For maximum benefit,
get your children involved in choosing the appropriate items. Take your
children with you when you drop the items off at the charitable destination.
2.) Regularly engage in a service oriented project. Rake
the leaves of an elderly couple. Bake cookies for a serviceman or servicewoman.
Bake bread and deliver it to the homeless feeding station in your community.
3.) Give blood. Take your children with you so they see
you as a model for giving. Talk to them about why you choose to donate
blood and what you hope it will accomplish by doing so.
4.) Set up birthday parties as a time for giving to others.
At your child’s first school age birthday party, ask guests to
bring a gift of a book (new or used) to be donated to a local charity.
Talk to you son about the books he has and about children who have no
books. Explain that one way to celebrate a birthday would be to give
to those who have less. Involve the birthday boy in the decision of
whether not to give the books to a woman’s shelter, a doctor’s
office, or some other appropriate organization. When you deliver the
books with your son, record it on camera.
5.) At regular intervals, buy dog or cat food and take
it to the humane society. Allow your children to spend some time with
the recipients of the gift.
6.) Build food baskets around the holidays and give to
a needy family suggested by your church or school. Involve your children
is selecting canned goods, fruit and other treats to include. Decorate
the gift package and deliver it together, as a family.
7.) Create a charity jar to be used by the family when
allowances are distributed. Invite children to share some of their allowance
with others through donating to the jar. As the jar fills decide as
a family where to contribute the contents. You may choose to save a
whale, buy gloves for needy children, or contribute to a cancer charity
among others. Read about various charities on the internet and share
this information with your children to help them make an informed decision.
8.) Do things for the elderly they have trouble doing
for themselves. Pick up sticks in your neighbors yard after a big windstorm.
Mow the grass for grandma. Wash grandpa’s car. Clean their windows
in the spring. Help them plant flowers.
9.) Get on a regular service schedule at your church or
synagogue. Sign up for a time to mow the grass and trim the bushes.
Take your turn ushering and allow your child to assist.
By implementing some of the ideas above or others like
them, you will be teaching your children that charity is not reserved
only for emergencies. You will be helping them appreciate that reaching
out to others in need is a way of life, rather than a moment in time
when a catastrophic disaster occurs. Remember, while you are giving
to others, you are giving your children important messages about your
beliefs concerning the spirit of giving.
© 2008 Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman.